IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Islam for non-Muslims http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum This is an XML content feed of; IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Islam for non-Muslims : Last 10 Posts Wed, 22 May 2013 04:06:50 +0000 Tue, 21 May 2013 14:33:18 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 8.04 30 www.IslamiCity.com/forum/RSS_topic_feed.asp?FID=7 IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_images/ICForum_Logo.gif http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=176147#176147 Author: josefrancisco
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 21 May 2013 at 2:33pm

All people are entitled to their own religious beliefs. You are a good person who does not hurt others, that's what is important now.

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Jose Francisco]]> Tue, 21 May 2013 14:33:18 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=176147#176147 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175943#175943 Author: NABA
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 10 May 2013 at 8:01am

Okk sister as you wish.may Allah grant U and ur family a bright future.Allahfiz]]> Fri, 10 May 2013 08:01:11 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175943#175943 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175929#175929 Author: happy2012
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 09 May 2013 at 10:58am

Originally posted by NABA

First of all what is Muslim??A Muslim is a person who submits his will to Allah,I.e follow the teachings of Qur'an.u don't require any persian/arabic name to b a Muslim.as a friend I m not forcing U to b religious but at least try to read Qur'an and then U will b much closer to Allah and find mental peace.islam is not only a religion,its a way of life,for eg Allah forbids backbiting(ch 49 v 11-12),Allah also commands us to knock the door before entering anyone's house(ch 24 v 27).in Qur'an u will find that Allah has taken care from big things to small minute things,I know u don't want to b religious but when u read Qur'an u urself will like it and appreciate the mercifullness of Allah.take this verse only-ch 28 v 84-when u do a good deed,Allah will grant u a reward  more than ur merit,for bad deed Allah will punish according to merit or forgive u if u repent.so in my point of view u should read Qur'an with translation,then u might come close to Islam.


Thank you for sharing your opinion, but I don't HAVE to get close to Islam. If God wanted everybody to be Muslim, we would all be Muslim. He gave us the freedom to choose, so there's no reason why I should "try to get close to Islam", when I could try to get close to any other religion (which I don't want to). I don't consider getting close to any religion, I'm happy with my way of life and I don't need to change it. I respect everybody and every religion, but I would never advice you to change your way of life, because I don't have to and I don't want to. You are Muslim, and that's okay! I don't want you to change, I don't want you to be something you don't want. I support you and your choices, why should I be advice to "try" to change my views or be a part of something I don't have to because I don't want to?

]]> Thu, 09 May 2013 10:58:55 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175929#175929 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175923#175923 Author: abuayisha
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 09 May 2013 at 8:10am

Happy2012, welcome to Islamicity!  It is perfectly acceptable for a Muslim to marry a Christian woman, however she should be a good woman (religious and virtuous).  Your situation is indeed complex because you've had a child outside of marriage, which is why religion is important (values and morals), and simply being a "good" person can often times be problematic.  You are absolutely correct that if you marry this man, or even continue to sleep with him, he may devalue you, not only based upon you not being a Muslim, but men often have little respect for women who sleep with them prior to marriage.  You mentioned that he drinks, which indicates to me, along with his other reckless behavior, that he is likely not mature or responsible.  Is this who you want to live your life with?  What does he do for a living?  What is his level of education?  Does his parents know he has a child?  At the end of the day; sometimes, "love" is not enough, and this relationship appears a complete train-wreck, however....the child.  The child deserves better from the both of you, than just enjoying "love" from each other.  You must decide upon becoming committed to your faith and your boyfriend to his own.  Your boyfriend must seek forgiveness for not following and practicing his religion; stop drinking and having sex outside of marriage, and start praying.  If you two are not willing and able to grow up and live adult lives - indeed it is better to take your child (be sure to force payment of child support) and move on living the life of a "good person" without your troubled boyfriend.

Edited by abuayisha - 09 May 2013 at 8:12am]]> Thu, 09 May 2013 08:10:45 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175923#175923 Islam for non-Muslims : Sacrifice in Islam http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25140&PID=175916#175916 Author: nothing
Subject: Sacrifice in Islam
Posted: 08 May 2013 at 11:16pm

Originally posted by nospam001

Originally posted by Nothing

The way I understand sacrifice is: giving up something valuable in order to help other person or persons without getting or expecting anything return in any shape or form. No Praise no price - nothing.

With this method human is being forged like raw steel in a furnace, shaped  and tempered to ditch all the impurities, to gain the toughest trustworthy steel.

Hi Nothing

I fully agree with your definition of sacrifice. But to gain purity and/or toughness surely counts as something 'in return', which brings not only honour, dignity and respect in this life but also the prospect of everlasting compensation in Paradise. Unless I've misunderstood a large part of what's in the Qur'an.


That is true, but I don't want them to start with, the sound of eternity truly scares me. But thankfully the Qur'an put a limit to this so called eternity, yet it still awfully long time.

I have seen, I have heard and experienced plenty enough to appreciate the gift of present life which I will never be able to match it in any way. This life is priceless which can only be expressed in the act of gratitude. Further price is unnecessary when I still unable to pay back even a tiny bit for the gift of the present life. But the misery of selfishness demands more.

Look around, you can see they are on fire already before even get there.


]]> Wed, 08 May 2013 23:16:06 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25140&PID=175916#175916 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175909#175909 Author: Caringheart
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 08 May 2013 at 7:30pm

Well, I am not a muslim, but I think you sound very wise.]]> Wed, 08 May 2013 19:30:41 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175909#175909 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175905#175905 Author: NABA
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 08 May 2013 at 9:46am

First of all what is Muslim??A Muslim is a person who submits his will to Allah,I.e follow the teachings of Qur'an.u don't require any persian/arabic name to b a Muslim.as a friend I m not forcing U to b religious but at least try to read Qur'an and then U will b much closer to Allah and find mental peace.islam is not only a religion,its a way of life,for eg Allah forbids backbiting(ch 49 v 11-12),Allah also commands us to knock the door before entering anyone's house(ch 24 v 27).in Qur'an u will find that Allah has taken care from big things to small minute things,I know u don't want to b religious but when u read Qur'an u urself will like it and appreciate the mercifullness of Allah.take this verse only-ch 28 v 84-when u do a good deed,Allah will grant u a reward  more than ur merit,for bad deed Allah will punish according to merit or forgive u if u repent.so in my point of view u should read Qur'an with translation,then u might come close to Islam.]]> Wed, 08 May 2013 09:46:14 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175905#175905 Islam for non-Muslims : Please read: Interfaith relationship http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175897#175897 Author: happy2012
Subject: Please read: Interfaith relationship
Posted: 07 May 2013 at 12:41pm

Hello everyone!
I need the advice of a knowledgeable Muslim..

My partner (Muslim) and I (non-Muslim) met 2 years ago, we fell in love and became a couple right away. I was raised Christian but haven't had a religion for a long time now, I personally believe that I don't NEED a religion to be a good person. I try to be a good person everyday, I want to help people and do good things for others'. I don't have a problem with the Muslim religion or any other religion, for that matter. I'm open-minded and respect everybody, no matter where you come from or what you believe. My partner is a Muslim but he doesn't practice his religion right now, he hasn't practiced since before he met me. I respect him and his religion, and support him in every way. There's been a couple times he's asked me to wake him to go to the mosque, and I would have if he hadn't changed his mind. I don't eat pork, out of respect for him. He drinks, smokes and does other non-Muslim things. When he drinks,  I fear for my safety and have him traumatized by his behavior. He's a great guy overall and we have a "good" relationship, he loves me and I love him. I think he assumed that I would become Muslim someday, and I've already made it clear that I do not want to be Muslim, I'm happy with the way I live my life. I have human rights and I should be given the same respect I give, I don't ask him to change for me because he deserves to be Muslim and I support that. His sister and my Muslim friends always tell me to "just be Muslim", that everyone will accept me and we will be happy. I respect his family but I don't need anyone to accept me, God didn't make me Muslim, he gave me the freedom to choose so I shouldn't change my life for anybody. I also think that is the wrong reason to become Muslim, if people asked me why I am Muslim, I would say because my partner wants me to or some other bad reason. I think, like any religion, I should have to convert because it's something I feel in my heart, something I want in my life, something I believe in. But either way I don't have to be Muslim because I just don't have to, if I don't want to. Everyone's answer to our situation is "just be Muslim", "just try it" and it's much more complicated than that. I can't just "be Muslim just because it's better", and more importantly I don't have to be Muslim because I don't want to be. So, my partner and I had a beautiful baby boy, our life is great but there's always this religion thing in the back of my mind. I love him so much and I care about his own beliefs and I want him to be happy with his life and his "afterlife". I'm Hispanic (American) and he's Somalian, we are from completely different cultures, different worlds. Our life will never be the life of a "religious family", I'm not religious and even though I support him with his own religion, we will never lead a "religious" life. My son and I don't eat pork, and I told him that he CAN teach our son about his religion but he cannot "force" him because my son has human rights and he deserves the freedom to choose. When we gets older and understands it, then he can choose to be Muslim and I'm totally okay with that. I do a lot for him but he's not better than me and I'm no better than him, we are equals and we have to meet in the middle (even though I do a lot more for him). Because I love and care about him I want to be truly happy with his life and his relationship with God and his religion, I want him to make the right choices according to his religion and follow the life that he believes in. I have ended our relationship several times because I want him to move on and find a Muslim woman and live the true Muslim lifestyle that he wants, but he loves me too much to let me go. I love him so much and I want to be with him for the rest of my life, but his religions is very important to him and I want him to live the life he wants, even if that means losing him. He wants us to get married and I would do that for him so that he feels better about our relationship, but I'm not converting to Muslim. The point is, I think that because he loves me, he doesn't want to leave me. But I think, as he gets older he will want to follow his religion more and more and will get to the point that he's not satisfied with being married to non-Muslim woman. This could take months or years, and I will have give him years of my life for him to leave me in the end. I would rather end our relationship now so that he can find a Muslim woman and live the lifestyle he wants, and move towards the future he wants.

Any advice is greatly appreciate, it's a tough situation and I would like to know what other Muslims think. I would like to receive advice from a knowledgeable Muslim person, someone who understand their religion very well.

Thank you for reading and I look forward to reading your advice and answering any questions you might have.

By the way, even though I don't have a religion, I do believe in God and pray. I have a relationship with God but I don't follow the "guidelines" that come with having a religion. I make good choices, I try to be a good human being and help others as much as I can. I think there's a lot of people from all religions who are not "good" people, and someone without a religion can sometimes be a better person than someone who has a religion but doesn't follow it.
]]> Tue, 07 May 2013 12:41:33 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25344&PID=175897#175897 Islam for non-Muslims : Sacrifice in Islam http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25140&PID=175573#175573 Author: nospam001
Subject: Sacrifice in Islam
Posted: 23 April 2013 at 8:03pm

Originally posted by Nothing

The way I understand sacrifice is: giving up something valuable in order to help other person or persons without getting or expecting anything return in any shape or form. No Praise no price - nothing.

With this method human is being forged like raw steel in a furnace, shaped  and tempered to ditch all the impurities, to gain the toughest trustworthy steel.

Hi Nothing

I fully agree with your definition of sacrifice. But to gain purity and/or toughness surely counts as something 'in return', which brings not only honour, dignity and respect in this life but also the prospect of everlasting compensation in Paradise. Unless I've misunderstood a large part of what's in the Qur'an.

]]> Tue, 23 Apr 2013 20:03:43 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25140&PID=175573#175573 Islam for non-Muslims : Sacrifice in Islam http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25140&PID=175531#175531 Author: nothing
Subject: Sacrifice in Islam
Posted: 22 April 2013 at 5:41pm

Originally posted by Loveendures

Is there a concept of sacrifice in Islam ? How is it explained?

The way I understand sacrifice is: giving up something valuable in order to help other person or persons without getting or expecting anything return in any shape or form. No Praise no price - nothing.

With this method human is being forged like raw steel in a furnace, shaped  and tempered to ditch all the impurities, to gain the toughest trustworthy steel.

But maybe you mean about cutting an animal?Smile








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