http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum This is an XML content feed of; IslamiCity Forum - Islamic Discussion Forum : Groups – Men (Brothers) : Last 10 Posts Sat, 18 May 2013 16:14:59 +0000 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:53:34 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 8.04 30 www.IslamiCity.com/forum/RSS_topic_feed.asp?FID=46 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_images/ICForum_Logo.gif http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175829#175829 Author: abuayisha
Subject: Choosing a life partner
Posted: 02 May 2013 at 8:53pm

Your question; "...do i let go of her past & consider her or do I leave her to find someone else" indicates to me that you are unable to overcome the knowledge that she; "has been with 2 guys previously.."]]> Thu, 02 May 2013 20:53:34 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175829#175829 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175813#175813 Author: TruthSeeker321
Subject: Choosing a life partner
Posted: 02 May 2013 at 10:13am

She has never exposed her sins to me or others in anyway, infact she has told me plenty of times that "i do not want to bring or talk anything related to my past, bcuz I do not like the persdon i use to be" nor that i have ever tried to dig more into it, because i know the kind of person I am if i pry into her past it will put me in a depression. Now the few things i know about her past is from her aswell they were meant to be told. I love her for what she is today, we get along really well, we have things in common and most importnly we understand eachother she's very much like the person i wud want to make my wife, this is not just an infatuation, if it was I wouldn't be talking about her at all i wudve closed my eyes & decided that i wanna marry her. So please help out on this, do i let go of her past & consider her or do I leave her to find someone else.]]> Thu, 02 May 2013 10:13:36 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175813#175813 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175811#175811 Author: abuayisha
Subject: Choosing a life partner
Posted: 02 May 2013 at 7:10am

If Allah, Most High, has blessed an individual with covering any sin or transgression, and that person has sought forgiveness for their wrong, than it is blameworthy for the person to expose these sins to others.  Likewise, you should not pry into a persons past looking for bad things they have done.  Who among us haven't done things we are ashamed about?  Take this advise for the next girl you desire to marry, because, and only you can answer this question, it doesn't appear that you will be able to forget or forgive her past.  The issue of trust will surface as soon as the infatuation for her wears off.]]> Thu, 02 May 2013 07:10:52 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175811#175811 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175808#175808 Author: TruthSeeker321
Subject: Choosing a life partner
Posted: 01 May 2013 at 8:43pm

Salaam,
I'm in love with a girl and she loves me back. We both want to marry eachother, but i stand in a confused state. The girl is very nice & loving she trys to be islamic too, but the only thing that bothers me about her, is her past. she has been with 2 guys previously when she was a teenager, she use to hug her colleages(guys) at work while saying gudbye and much more. She admits that she has done alot of mistakes in life because she was young. She says that shes a different person now, she doesn't hangout with guys anymore she don't hug them when saying gudbye she wont even shakehands with a guy which is all true i know that verywell. But as being a guy a girls past really matters to me and I really get depressed when she tells me anything from her past. I want to know should i let go of her past and accept her for what she is today? Should i try to dig more into her past? Or should i just leave her bcuz of her past mistakes?]]> Wed, 01 May 2013 20:43:38 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25308&PID=175808#175808 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24667&PID=175770#175770 Author: NABA
Subject: Your thoughts matter
Posted: 30 April 2013 at 8:31am

walecum As Salaam,if I would have been in your position I truly say to her that let me complete my studies first and then marry,yes love is right at its place but practically it is odd,because even after completing ur studies U have to look for a good job and then marriage comes after that.that's my opinion.Allahfiz]]> Tue, 30 Apr 2013 08:31:19 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24667&PID=175770#175770 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24019&PID=175751#175751 Author: NABA
Subject: help me please
Posted: 29 April 2013 at 9:00am

Read Qur'an,Allah clearly mentions the punishment of this sin and also how sinners at the time of Prophet Lut(pbuh) were punished.in this way U will develop fear and refrain from this sin.]]> Mon, 29 Apr 2013 09:00:58 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24019&PID=175751#175751 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=16866&PID=175539#175539 Author: younes12
Subject: Rules of intercourse in Islam?
Posted: 22 April 2013 at 7:30pm

actually there was a friend of the prophet peace be upon him that he drink from his wife and he said i should leave her (divorce her) but the prophet then said that for the kids that less then 2 years that have nit yet have there teeth they are the ones that be there foster mother however if you are older then that is ok even if you drink it that's a hadith sahih right i heard it from chiekh qaradawi
and allah knows more]]> Mon, 22 Apr 2013 19:30:27 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=16866&PID=175539#175539 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=25168&PID=175381#175381 Author: us165
Subject: Some authentication about sayings of masturbation
Posted: 14 April 2013 at 2:37am

Assalam U Alaikum everyone, This is Usman
The question i want to ask which keeps bugging me every time is about this "particular" saying related to masturbation is Islam. I know that they have provided the reference as well but i don't have access to these books so i want to confirm this:
Allama Mahmood Alussi (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates in Ruh-ul-Ma’ni: “Atta (may Allah be pleased with him) says that I have heard that on the Day of Judgment one group will be brought in such a way that their hands will be pregnant. I think they are the masturbators.”


Their was also some addition to this that they will be punished by Allah Almighty that they should now give birth by their hands, the time they have masturbated and will feel 10x more pain than a pregnant woman while delivering a baby. Thanks please do respond.

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Subject: Your thoughts matter
Posted: 12 February 2013 at 8:56am

Salam,

    Hi Chrysalis. Abu Loren has his/her opinion and I must respect it (we must too). Now I get the feeling from your comment that you think I may not be giving her the commitment, if this is what you are getting at I must say you are wrong. I doubt you read my initial post clearly , if not kindly do so again, did you know she tried getting me to do a Nikah without the consent of her Father "Is that right Islamically", what woman does that. Are you a Male or Female, if you are the latter may I ask, would you push a Man to marry without the consent of your Mahram (Guardian). this is not a case of not giving her a commitment as I did give her my words, spoke to my parents about it as well as reassured her that if she is worried about any relationship issues before marriage we don't even have to meet that way she can protect herself , (tell me, am not trying to be proud or big headed), how many men do you know that know certainly a woman is head over heels for them and not take advantage of it in this day and age we live in. Now most times people forget to think about the Man in this instances but worry about the woman instead. I told her the truth and laid down my ideas from day one, bottom line is if she didn't like it why didn't she leave, I have and never will force my ideas on a female. She wouldn't leave and she wouldn't let me leave if I chose to walk away from it. Thanks for taking the time out to respond, I truly appreciate it.]]> Tue, 12 Feb 2013 08:56:46 +0000 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24667&PID=174156#174156 http://www.IslamiCity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=24667&PID=174151#174151 Author: Chrysalis
Subject: Your thoughts matter
Posted: 12 February 2013 at 3:59am

I think one possible reason that she may be pressing for a quick marriage is because she does not trust your commitment. She needs some sort of commitment from you, how can she be sure that you will marry her? She probably told her parents, and they said - if he is serious, he will offer some sort of commitment. A commitment my friend, is a nikah. You don't have to start living together, have a nikah - and then continue with your masters. This will give her the commitment she needs.

Its not about being bossy, or ''funny''', its basically making sure that the guy is not just stringing you along with false promises. I think she is doing the right thing, if you can't marry her, she should end the relationship - because there is no point.

You should involve your parents and have the parents talk, and have an engagement. I bet she will stop pressuring you for a nikah then.

Abu Loren's advise I feel was rather immature. [To be hoest, she doesn't come across as a true Muslimah as she is pushing you and trying to control you. A true Muslimah will respect the man and listen to him rather than trying to order him around. She will know her place, even if it sounds sexist.] Really? Ok!


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