Marriage: A simple marriage

Q342 :I intend to get married and my parents are trying to arrange that for me. My desire is to have my marriage conducted in the simple Islamic way. How should I go about it?

A342 : It is highly commendable that you wish your marriage to be free from all the customs which have been introduced in order to maintain appearances and try to preserve the position of the two families in the society. That is certainly not one of the purposes of marriage according to Islam. The marriage contract is made simply by a commitment and an acceptance. The guardian of the bride commits himself to marrying her to the bridegroom if the agreed conditions are met, and the bridegroom accepts that commitment which means that he is prepared to honour those conditions. A certain amount of dower is fixed between the two parties and this becomes payable at the moment when the contract is made. If both parties agree, payment of the whole amount or any part of it can be deferred. When that has taken place, the marriage is made. The wedding can take place at any time, and indeed the bride and the bridegroom can join together in their new family home without a wedding party, if they so wish. The contract, which is witnessed at least by two persons, is sufficient. However, publicity of the marriage is desirable. This is the purpose of the wedding party which can be as simple as one chooses. What is recommended for the bridegroom is to arrange a dinner party for relatives, neighbours and friends. Again, this need not be a grand affair. A simple one is preferable. The idea is to allow neighbours and relatives to share in the happy occasion. Apart from this, nothing is required.

Our Dialogue ( Source : Arab News - Jeddah )