tradition of honoring mothers has been in effect in these United States for the
last several decades and might continue forever. Mother's Day is observed every
year on the second Sunday in the month of May.
the Islamic tradition honoring parents and specially mothers is greatly emphasized.
Many verses in the Holy Quran say that believers should worship only God and
should not associate any partners with him. Along with this, God says in the
Quran "Show gratitude to Me and to your parents". A famous saying of
is "Paradise lies under the feet of mothers."
of the examples of displaying the utmost respect and kindness to one's mother
was shown by Imam Abu Hanifah, one of the great Faqih (Jurisprudent) of Islamic
law. Imam Abu Hanifah and his mother lived in the city of Kufah (A city near
Najaf in Iraq). His father died when he was a young boy, and his mother
lived until she was in her eighties. The Imam took care of her with immense
affection and regard. The Imam's mother had a great reverence for some of the
religious preachers of that time, and one of them was Amr bin Dharr, a
well-known preacher of Kufah.
inquisitive and unduly curious mind had many religious questions. Even though
her son was a great Islamic scholar, when she had a question, she would command
Imam Abu Hanifah to go to Amr bin Dharr, and get an answer for her. This would
always embarrass Amr bin Dharr. " How dare I open my mouth before
you", Amr would say. The imam would comfort him by saying " Such is my
mother's command." Then, the imam would get Amr bin Dharr's answer and
return to his mother.
it so happened that Amr bin Dharr did not know the answer. He asked the Imam to
repeat the question. Instead of providing an answer after hearing the question,
Amr bin Dharr posed a question to the imam and said " would you mind, if I
ask you a question." The imam said that he had no objection to Amr asking
him a question. Then, Amr bin Dharr repeated Abu Hanifah's mother's question and
said " If I ask you this question, then what would your answer be?"
The imam looked at Amr bin Dharr with a smile, thought for a moment and gave him
bin Dharr turned around and repeated the answer given by the imam moments ago
and said, " Please tell your mother that this is Amr bin Dharr's
answer." The Imam returned home and uttered the answer, and his mother was
happy and satisfied with the answer.
Yacoob is the former Vice Chairman of Islamic Center of Southern California and
former President, Masjid Ul Islam, Inglewood, California