His
name was unusual and incomplete. Julaybib "small gown" being the
diminutive form of the word "Jalbab". The name is an indication
that Julaybib was small and short, even of dwarf-like stature. More than that,
he is described as being "damim" which means ugly, deformed, or
of repulsive appearance.
Even
more disturbing, for the society in which he lived, Julaybib's lineage was not
known. There is no record of who his mother and father was or to what tribe he
belonged. This was a grave disability in the society in which he lived. Julaybib
could not expect any compassion or help, any protection or support from a
society that placed a great deal of importance on family and tribal connections.
In this regard, all that was known of him was that he was an Arab and that, as
far as the new community of Islam was concerned, he was one of the Ansar.
Perhaps he belonged to one of the outlying tribes beyond Madinah
and had drifted into the city or he could even have been from among the Ansar of
the city itself.
The
disabilities under which Julaybib lived would have been enough to have him
ridiculed and shunned in any society and in fact he was prohibited by one
person, a certain Abu Barzah of the Aslam tribe, from entering his home. He once
told his wife:
"Do
not let Julaybib enter among you. If he does, I shall certainly do (something
terrible to him)." Probably because he was teased and scoffed at in the
company of men, Julaybib used to take refuge in the company of women.
Was
there any hope of Julaybib being treated with respect and consideration? Was
there any hope of his finding emotional satisfaction as an individual and as a
man? Was there any hope of his enjoying the relationships which others take for
granted? And in the new society emerging under the guidance of the Prophet,
peace be upon him, was he so insignificant as to be overlooked in the
preoccupation with the great affairs of state and in the supreme issues of life
and survival which constantly engaged the attention of the Prophet, peace be
upon him?
Just
as he was aware of the great issues of life and destiny, the Prophet of Mercy,
peace be upon him, was also aware of the needs and sensibilities of his most
humble companions. With Julaybib in mind, the Prophet, peace be upon him, went
to one of the Ansar and said:
"I
want to have your daughter married."
"How
wonderful and blessed, O Messenger of God and what a delight to the eye (this
would be)," replied the Ansari man with obvious joy and happiness.
"I
do not want her for myself," added the Prophet, peace be upon him.
"Then
for whom, O Messenger of God?" asked the man, obviously somewhat let down.
"For
Julaybib," said the Prophet, peace be upon him.
The
Ansari man must have been too shocked to give his own reaction and he merely
said:
"I
will consult with her mother." And off he went to his wife.
"The
Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, wants to have your
daughter married," he said to her.
She
too was thrilled.
"What
a wonderful idea and what a delight to the eye (this would be)," she said.
"He
doesn't want to marry her himself but he wants to marry her to Julaybib,"
he added.
She
was flabbergasted.
"To
Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by the living God, we shall not marry (her)
to him," she protested.
As
the Ansari was about to return to the Prophet, peace be upon him, to inform him
of what his wife had said, the daughter who had heard her mother's
protestations, asked:
"Who
has asked you to marry me?"
Her
mother told her of the Prophet's request, peace be upon him, for her hand in
marriage to Julaybib. When she heard that the request had come from the Prophet,
peace be upon him, and that her mother was absolutely opposed to the idea, she
was greatly perturbed and said:
"Do
you refuse the request of the Messenger of God? Send me to him for he shall
certainly not bring ruin to me."
This
was the reply of a truly great person who had a clear understanding of what was
required of her as a Muslim. What greater satisfaction and fulfillment can a
Muslim find than in responding willingly to the requests and commands of the
Messenger of God! No doubt, this companion of the Prophet, whose name we do not
even know had heard the verse of the Quran:
"Now whenever God and His Apostle have decided a matter, it is not for a
believing man or a believing woman to claim freedom of choice in so far as they
themselves are concerned. And he who disobeys God and His Prophet has already,
most obviously, gone astray." (The Quran, Surah al-Ahzab, 33:36)
This
verse was revealed in connection with the marriage of Zaynab bint Jahsh and Zayd
ibn al-Harithah which was arranged by the Prophet, peace be upon him, to show
the egalitarian spirit of Islam. Zaynab at first was highly offended at the
thought of her marrying Zayd, a former slave, and refused to do so. The Prophet,
peace be upon him, prevailed upon them both and they were married. The marriage
however ended in divorce and Zaynab was eventually married to the Prophet
himself, peace be upon him.
It
is said that the Ansari girl read the verse to her parents and said:
"I
am satisfied and submit myself to whatever the Messenger of God deems good for
me."
The
Prophet, peace be upon him, heard of her reaction and prayed for her:
"O
Lord, bestow good on her in abundance and make not her life one of toil and
trouble."
Among
the Ansar, it is said that there was not a more eligible bride than she. She was
married by the Prophet, peace be upon him, to Julaybib and they lived together
until he died.
And
how did Julaybib die? He went on an expedition with the Prophet, peace be upon
him, and an encounter with some mushrikin
ensued. When the battle was over, the Prophet, peace be upon him, asked his
companions:
"Have
you lost anyone?"
They
replied giving the names of their relatives or close friends who were killed. He
put the same question to other companions and they also named the ones they lost
in the battle. Another group answered that they had lost no close relative
whereupon the Prophet, peace be upon him, said:
"But
I have lost Julaybib. Search for him in the battlefield."
They
searched and found him beside seven mushrikin whom he had struck before meeting
his end. The Prophet, peace be upon him, stood up and went to the spot where
Julaybib, his short and deformed companion, lay. He stood over him and said:
"This
(man) is of me and I am of him."
He
repeated this two or three times. The Prophet, peace be upon him, then took him
in his arms and it is said that he had no better bed than the forearms of the
Messenger of God, peace be upon him. He then dug for him a grave and himself
placed him in it. He did not wash him for martyrs are not washed before burial.
Julaybib
and his wife are not usually among the companions of the Prophet, peace be upon
him, whose deeds are sung and whose exploits are recounted with reverence and
admiration as they should be. But in the meagre facts that are known about them
and which have here been recounted we see how humble human beings were given
hope and dignity by the Prophet, peace be upon him, where once there was only
despair and self-debasement.
The
attitude of the unknown and unnamed Ansari girl who readily agreed to be the
wife of a physically unattractive man was an attitude which reflected a profound
understanding of Islam. It reflected on her part the effacement of personal
desires and preferences even when she could have counted on the support of her
parents. It reflected on her part a total disregard for social pressures. It
reflected above all a ready and implicit confidence in the wisdom and authority
of the Prophet, peace be upon him, in submitting herself to whatever he deemed
good. This is the attitude of the true believer.
In
Julaybib, there is the example of a person who was almost regarded as a social
outcast because of his appearance. Given help, confidence and encouragement by
the noble Prophet, peace be upon him, he was able to perform acts of courage and
make the supreme sacrifice and deserve the commendation of the Prophet, peace be
upon him:
"He
is of me and I am of him."
Excerpted from
Companions of the Prophet by Abdul Wahid Hamid
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